Imagine what it’s like to pick a lock…
You know what you need to do (get the lock off!)
but you don’t know how to do it.
You thought you knew where the key was… but after looking everywhere, you still haven’t found it.
You try different tools but you can’t see what’s inside.
You don’t know if you’re making any progress… “is what I’m doing helping?”
You could keep trying different tools and watch more how-to videos, and try to figure it out by yourself…
Or, you could call a locksmith and simply get on with your life.
I’m your locksmith.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious,
it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
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“I’ve had positive therapeutic experiences in the past; however, working with Jesse, I am finally making progress in the areas of my life that I want to improve. I don’t feel like I’m just addressing my symptoms.”
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“I got more out of 10 sessions with Jesse than I did in 15 years of on and off talk therapy.”
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“I’ve been in therapy for over 10 years, and in just the last six months of working with Jesse, I’ve made more progress than ever before.”
Life can feel like it’s filled with “locks”
work
relationships
money
goals
family
health
friends
hobbies
Pulled in a thousand directions…
overwhelmed
exhausted
deflated
cynical
bottled up
but not allowed show it
Having a lost sense-of-self
living for others
giving so much but getting so little
doing what’s expected
deferring to others
don’t even know what to really want…
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world…
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Clarity guarantee
One of my jobs as a therapist and coach is to advocate for my clients more than they are currently capable of.
This type of guided, non-judgmental self-exploration helps clients see themselves (and others) in a new light.
My work with clients focuses on experiences like:
Clarity & Direction: How can I get clarity when I don’t really know what I want? What if what I want changes, again?! It feels like I’m being pulled in multiple directions constantly and I don’t know what to do.
Trust: I have a hard time trusting myself, let alone others. People let me down and I have to do everything myself. Trust is earned over time and broken easily… it’s always been this way.
Confidence: I’m not sure when it went away but I know I just don’t have it. I don’t take the actions I know I should and it’s frustrating. It’s like no matter what I do, it’s wrong.
Independence: I’m not sure if I would call it independence or loneliness. I don’t know who I am. I don’t have a purpose. And it feels like everything I do is for other people.
Self Love: I don’t treat myself very nicely. And frankly, I don’t like myself a lot of the time. I’m working hard for others to like me but it feels useless.
Peace of Mind: I’m always trying to figure things out and ‘see around corners.’ I’m anxious that things are going to fall apart or just fail. I’m never actually present. I’m either thinking about something I did or something I need to do.
“The journey of true discovery lies not in finding new lands…
but in looking through new eyes.”
Read why 90% of my clients are referrals
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I’m Jesse
Nice to meet you
It’s easier to change things outside of us - jobs, partners, cities, etc. It’s harder to change things inside of us - beliefs, emotions, thoughts etc.
We’re all pretty adept and equipped to working out. My passion and focus is helping people start working in.
Psychotherapist & Mental Coach
Creator of Emotional Agency™
Speaker on Mental/Emotional Health
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“Jesse is amazing at what he does! If you’re looking for someone who can really challenge your perspective, I’d definitely recommend getting on his calendar.”
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“Jesse is a calm and reliable guide, helping you see what is already there and altering your approach to life in a perspective-shifting way.”
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“Jesse excels at simplifying complex, confusing topics, making everything clear and manageable.”
More than a career
I eat, sleep, & breathe this stuff
Emotional Agency™ Therapy & Coaching
Creator of a proprietary framework for psychotherapy and mental coaching.
Is both rehabilitative (therapy) and skill building (coaching).
The simplicity and practicality empowers client’s so they are not dependent on therapy long-term.
Psychotherapist
Dual licensed in the State of Texas
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Associate (LMFT-A) - #205918
Licensed Professional Counselor Associate (LPC-A) - #97301
Mental Coach
Certified ‘No More Mr. Nice Guy’ Coach through Dr. Robert Glover.
Dr. Glover is the author of best-selling book No More Mr Nice Guy.
This book helps adult men (and their spouses) understand and separate from the childhood conditioned belief of “If I’m ‘nice’, people will meet my needs”.
Education, Trainings, & Personal Development
Master of Arts in Marriage, Family, & Child Counseling - University of Mary Hardin-Baylor - Belton, TX - 2024.
Internship of Marriage & Family Therapy at the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs - Temple, TX - 2024.
The Hoffman Process - Petaluma, CA - 2023.
No More Mr. Nice Guy Certified Coach Training - Puerto Vallarta, Mexico - 2022.
Peter Crone Mastermind - Online - 2022.
Ayahuasca retreat at Soltara Healing Center - Playa Blanca, Costa Rica - 2021.
Total Personal Integration with Dr. Robert Glover - Seattle, WA - 2019.
Professional Goals
Helping to make mental/emotional health as common and ‘everyday’ as physical health is today.
Scaling Emotional Agency™ as one vehicle to do so.
More details and professional connection on LinkedIn.
FAQs
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TLDR: therapy is rehabilitative and coaching is skill building.
Physical metaphor: When would you hire a physical therapist? And when would you hire a coach?
If you want to work on your tennis serve, you should hire a tennis coach. If you have limited range of motion, you should hire a physical therapist. They both provide distinct, valuable services.
More info: Psychotherapy rehabilitates a client’s limiting, subconscious beliefs about themselves, others, their environment, and how they all connect and interact.
Mental coaching co-creates the present with intentional cognition rather than compulsive, conditioned cognition derived from past experiences.
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Absolutely!
Psychotherapy and Mental Coaching work is not specific to sex. This work is about identifying and reframing self-imposed beliefs that keep clients feeling stuck and conflicted. It’s a human condition.
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Conversational.
You articulate what’s in your head and what you’re feeling. Language provides context clues about what you believe you’re dealing with. I listen. I hear things that you don’t pick up on (blindspots) and we start to get to know you without judgment. You find out why you are-the-way-you-are and you find out why you do-what-you-do.
Another metaphor: it's like collecting puzzle pieces. One puzzle piece by itself doesn't provide much information. But when enough puzzle pieces start to connect, you can see the whole picture, and it all makes sense!
The result is a macro view of yourself and your beliefs. It’s like a fish-out-of-water. You've been too close-in to see the "water." The result is understanding compulsions so you are able to be more intentional.
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No.
Insurance requires a mental health diagnosis to cover services.
Furthermore, this requirement does not align with the mental coaching approach, which focuses on personal development and does not involve diagnosing mental health conditions.
This distinction means that insurance coverage is generally not applicable to coaching services.
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Yes.
But this is a question for your tax professional to answer for you.
Mental coaching will impact your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in all areas of your life, including career.
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You’ll start to get a new perspective after our first session.
Unlike physical health which takes time and consistency, you can change your mind in an instant. However, there is a great quote that sums up this work:
“Not even the greatest guru in the world can take a single step for you.” -Anthony De Mello
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Everyone can benefit from truly getting to know themselves.
There is no better way to improve your relationships than by improving the way way you relate to yourself. And this comes through a thorough understanding of yourself and human nature.
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Merriam-Webster: Existing in the mind but not immediately available to consciousness (state of being aware).
American Psychological Association: A level of consciousness at which a stimulus may affect behavior even though the person is not explicitly aware of it.
Jesse King: You generate 'meaning' about everything, and more specifically- what it means about you. This 'meaning' is driving your emotions, thoughts, and behavior- unbeknownst to you.
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Virtual.
Sessions are conducted through Zoom for the following benefits.
Convenience: eliminates the need for commuting, making it highly convenient for individuals with busy schedules or those living in remote areas.
Accessibility: breaks down geographical barriers, allowing individuals to access services from far away. This widens the scope for finding the right professional to suit your needs.
Flexibility: offers more flexible scheduling options, accommodating different time zones and varying work or personal commitments.
Comfort & Privacy: being in your own space can enhance comfort and openness during sessions. For some, it may feel easier to express thoughts and feelings from a familiar environment, thus promoting a greater level of transparency.
Continuity: ensures continuity in receiving support even during travel, illness, or adverse weather conditions, maintaining regularity in sessions.
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If you’re seeking to understand yourself better, are open to self-exploration, and are willing to commit to personal growth, these sessions will be a rewarding experience for you.
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No.
No Upselling or Add-Ons. No tricks. No gimmicks. Nothing more to purchase.
No cancellation fees. Life happens and I’m not here to make it more stressful.
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This week.
Click on one of the plans to see my availability.
“Every man has two lives...
and the second begins when he realizes he only has one”
Simple & straight- forward
Keyholder
For those who want to explore psychotherapy & coaching without the financial commitment.
($180/hr)
$180
60min Zoom call
Exploration of goals, previous experiences, and the tenets of change
After the call, you can decide to apply this payment to the 3 month package, essentially making this call complimentary.
Master Keys
Personal development with the knowledge of a therapist and the accountability of a coach.
($120/hr)
$400/mo
3 month minimum
10 hours every 3 months
Complete Roadmap: Assessment, Historical Exploration, Goal Setting, Psychoeducation, and Applicable Practices.
“Progress is impossible without change…
and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.”
Mind Benders
Paradigm shifting books from some of the best ‘teachers’ out there.
If you read one, let it be The Untethered Soul. All others are listed in no particular order - enjoy!
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The Untethered Soul
Michael Singer
“ There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it.”
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The Surrender Experiment
Michael Singer
“ Am I better off making up an alternate reality in my mind and then fighting with reality to make it be my way, or am I better off letting go of what I want and serving the same forces of reality that managed to create the entire perfection of the universe around me?”
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Awareness
Anthony de Mello
“ What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.
You are always a slave to what you’re not aware of. When you’re aware of it, you’re free from it. It’s there, but you’re not affected by it. You’re not controlled by it; you’re not enslaved by it. That’s the difference.”
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No One Is To Blame
Bob Hoffman
“ Love is not a barrier to anything. It is the great liberator. When you love yourself for the person you are and can give that love to others, then you have found a freedom unknown to those who remain uninvolved and unattached.”
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Becoming Nobody
Ram Dass
“ When you're born, you go into Somebody Training- 'cause your parents know who they are and they're gonna make you somebody, too. My parents were very intent on making me somebody. And they wanted me to achieve, be responsible, be healthy, be successful, bring pride to them, and if it didn't interfere with any of those, I should be happy.
And you walk down the street and you're somebody. You say you know who you are. You dress like somebody, your face looks like somebody, everything is somebody. Everybody is reinforcing their structure of the universe over and over again. "This is who I am, this is who you are." We enter in these conspiracies. I'll make believe you are who you think you are, if you make believe I am who I think I am. I mean, everybody's busy being somebody.”
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No More Mr. Nice Guy
Dr. Robert Glover
“ In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy.
Humans connect with humans. Hiding one's humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.” -
Inner Game of Tennis
W. Timothy Gallwey
“ When the mind is free of any thought or judgment, it is still and acts like a mirror. Then and only then can we know things as they are.”
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Reality Transurfing: Steps I-V
Vadim Zeland
“ The mind is constantly generating thoughts and the voice of the heart is literally drowned out by the ‘thought-churn’ making it difficult to access intuitive knowledge. If you stop the train of thoughts and simply contemplate the emptiness, you will hear the rustle of the morning stars, the inner voice that has no words. The heart could provide answers to many of our questions if only we could hear its voice.”
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The Courage to be Disliked
Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga
“So in Adlerian psychology, we do not think about past “causes” but rather about present “goals.” This is the difference between etiology (the study of causation) and teleology (the study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause).”